Fundamental #1: God is in Charge by Ben Hutchings, LMHC

Is God holding the full weight of your heart’s desire for your marriage?

When you hang a large picture on the wall, you have two options.  You can hang it from a single point with a thick nail, or you can connect hangers to both sides and connect them with a wire, giving it one point at which it hangs from the wall on the wire.  This is much like marriage.  We, as husbands and wives, wire our opposing sides together in covenant marriage before God, and in this commitment allow Christ to be the single point that we hang our marriage upon. 

In order to live this out, let’s look again at the metaphor.  A picture stays on the wall, with the weight distributed more evenly between the two points, ultimately pulling upon that single point.  In our marriages, we will distribute the weight of our needs and wants between one another, but ultimately we must take these to our Lord, for only He can bear the full weight of our individual and marital desires. 

Consider for a moment the desires you have for your marriage and what is it that you do with them?  Do you give up on them and settle, becoming roommates? Do you demand them of your loved one, unwilling to face your disappointment, becoming a user rather than a lover?  Or perhaps you bring your desires to your partner in open vulnerability all the while bringing the full weight of them to the Lord? Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

Ben Hutchings, LMHC & The Marriage Show Partner
Twelve Stones Counseling Center
407-353-3218 ext. 105